I want to appreciate you all for the feedback these past weeks.
Thank you for taking out time to drop a comment or send a return email.
Your replies warm my heart, and being able to answer your questions adds more thrill to the process of writing this newsletter.
If you read some of my previous newsletters, like 3 or 4 newsletters back, you’ll realize I’m currently watching a series titled “Grey’s Anatomy”.
It’s about surgeons and their lives within and outside the hospital space.
Been picking lessons from it and I have yet another strong lesson to share with you.
The life of the everyday surgeon is filled with uncertainties. The day might start bright and end up dark.
Some of these dark occurrences are unprecedented. Nobody expected or envisioned them, they just happened.
However, when they occur, you need to handle them. The problems can’t deal with themselves, it has to be you wading through the storm.
This also happens in real-life.
A bright happy day can turn dark because of sickness, accident, financial crisis, bad review, etc.
Different people handle these crises in different ways.
Some are calm, others are disoriented and angry.
Some people are calm when they are not directly affected. They are quick to find solutions, looking for ways to solve the problem. Problem-solving might even be their way of panicking.
Another category of the calm ones are those who disappear. They like to remove themselves from the center of the crisis, move somewhere else and just cry or think.
Then there are the angry ones. Angry at the situation, at the people involved, probably angry at God too. They are screaming at the top of their lungs, wondering why they are at the center of a situation like that.
It’s important to know which you are, and also know that the people around you might not know how you process difficult situations. This is because they have their own idea of what should happen based on their own process.
It doesn’t invalidate your process, it however means you need to communicate to them.
Let them know what you need to get through this hurt. Do you need space, company or creative solutions? Communicate.
Crisis can draw people closer to each other, but it can also put a dent in a strong friendship, end a marriage or do worse.
If you want to have people at the other side of your troubles, you must learn to communicate your feelings and needs correctly.
Are you a calm or disoriented person during a crisis? Have you had to deal with a difficult situation before? Share your story and let me know how you handled it.
SHINE!!!
I’m Bridget